March 3, 2009 - Random thinking

This was on my mind this morning because all the little ones that I held and took pictures of during our visit to Ukraine are meeting their new Mommy and Daddy. Yes, Timur, Alina and my little unstoppable tank, Slava will be coming home soon! This makes me so very happy. As I was daydreaming about these meetings, I started to think of Irina. Irina was the translator that directed us through Ukraine with such efficiency. She is very sweet but a tough negotiator and very good at her job.

Lera was the first child with Down syndrome that she had ever met. She was trying all the way to Izmayl to understand what possibly motivated us to want to adopt another child with Down syndrome. She understood that we loved and adored our Caelia but to come all this way to bring home an untouchable child baffled her. She smiled when we told her about our daughter's insistance on doing things her way and was genuinely intrigued by the idea that our daughter would most likely live independently at some time in the future.

She translated everything that we told the director of Lera's orphanage about the opportunities for Lera in our country and of our plans to provide for her future and her care if at some time we were not there to help her but she really didn't understand. She did not really interact with Lera until we came back to get her. She was pleasant and friendly and so very helpful with those first days away from all that Lera had previously knew and I believe we changed how she viewed a child with Down syndrome. I was even told that she uses "the Green's little girl" as an example of a well behaved child.

This video clip was taken at the Meat and Wine restaurant in Odessa. Irina said it was very expensive and I don't think she quite knew what to do when we obviously were taking Lera to eat in such a place. We did get a few odd looks but if you never take kids someplace nice to eat how will they learn to behave properly? Afterall, someday she will go to dances and dinners and (much to Randy's dismay) perhaps she will even date. Actually, I am sure she will date - she is the biggest flirt I have ever seen. Hopefully, she will always delight in every new experience the way she did this one.

Back to what sent me off on this line of thought. Irina is the translator for these families returning to Lera's orphanage. I wonder what she is thinking as she sits there and watches these other crazy Americans meeting their new child. I wonder how much they will change what she believes and if she still thinks we are all out of our minds? I think maybe she sees these children differently than when she first entered our Lera's life.

I firmly believe that if you don't like people with Down syndrome its because you never met one or let yourself get to know one. I haven't figured out how to imbed this link but I adore this short film (thanks, Leah for finding it for me). Here is the address:
http://tropfest.ninemsn.com.au/?videoid=79896813-777c-4bfc-832a-5f94b692ef53&tab=1

I particularly like the difference in how the woman shakes hands intitially and how she says goodbye. I like the very end too.

February 22, 2009 - Has it really been a year?

It has been one year since the Izmayl court declared Lera officially ours. Her orphanage kept her an extra 3 days until my father and I arrived to begin our journey home, but one year ago today was the day the we became a family of 5. And it all started with a picture. This one.I remember the anxiety of the paperwork, the exhausting travel, the strangeness of not being able to read all the signs around me. You wouldn't think it would be disorienting to see the signs and not instantly know what they meant, but it makes you feel isolated and truly on the other side of the earth.
The food was different - even the milk, but you keep a small picture in your heart of two little girls playing and whispering and giggling like best friends and you dutifully follow your translator onto trains, taxis and to a gated facility on the edge of a far away town to meet this beautiful little princess who looks at you, not with adoration but like this:
What a difference knowing that this odd woman that visited and played with you for a short time, who the other children said abandoned you, came BACK to take you HOME - even if you didn't know what that was. This was what greeted me the day I picked her up.It was a difficult journey but so worth each moment. There...
And here.
I look at these photos and dream of 3 giggling little girls having a teaparty under the silver maple tree in the backyard...

February 21, 2009 - I lost a tooth!


Caelia lost one of her front teeth at lunch today. Lera was very curious about the excitement. She kept looking in Caeli's mouth trying to figure out what we were looking at. As soon as she figured out there was a missing tooth - she promptly told on Caeli for having lost something so important!


This is a picture from about 7pm - can you tell that the gap has gotten wider? YEP! She lost both of her top front teeth in one day!